End Of School Year

As a parent of children with autism and ADHD, I have to say that I find the end of the school year somewhat daunting!

Why?

Well, because this time of year raises lots of issues, that on the whole my kids don’t cope with.  These mostly revolve around one single concept…CHANGE!

A new teacher for next year is a very real problem. Likewise, just changing classroom or curriculum can be hard. Even taking 6 weeks off, and changing day to day routines, is commonly stressful for my little ones.  Then, the anxiety from all this stuff (and much, much more) will come home. In fact, the behaviours associated with my kids feeling these pressures, is almost always heightened once they’re home.  Its their emotionally safe place!

So, where other families may look forward to the summer break, for ours it can often be tough.  This can paint a confusing picture for many, with a lack of understanding over how all these ‘foreseen’ changes can cause such problems. Especially as these things are usually of little consequence to a lot of people.

Don’t get me wrong…I love having my children at home for the holidays. But it takes careful, minute by minute guidance, to ensure they love it too.

Let me know how the summer is for you and your family.  I would love to hear from you, whether you face similar challenges or not.

Get In Touch

Whilst busy writing today, I thought it was a good time to suggest that we keep in touch…

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How else, are we going to discuss the world I’m creating?

How else, are YOU able to forward any ideas or thoughts you have on my story?

How else, are YOU going to be able to find special offers?

How else, could you get involved in giveaways?

So…

What are you waiting for?  Pop your details in the form below, and let’s get chatting!!

Can’t wait to hear from you…

A Little About Me

Perhaps it’s about time I told you a little about me.  Question is…what do I tell you?

Well, here’s a start…

I’m a forty three year old father to three beautiful children.  I also have a wonderful fiancee (mum to two of those children), who I am about to marry on 25th July this year. I’m so excited, but extraordinarily nervous too.  She is my absolute inspiration, and very supportive over this whole writing thing, which has been a dream I’ve never followed before.  Couldn’t tell you why I haven’t, but I’m sure there are plenty of rubbish reasons.  Anyway, my fiancee also has two (much more grown up) children.  Therefore, between us, we are incredibly lucky enough to have five kids!

Are you keeping up?

If so, before I go into more detail, I need to ask that you bear with me.  There is a point to what I’m about to say…

Where the three smaller children are concerned, they have each had various neuro-developmental challenges, on top of some other difficulties. My daughter has something called Goldenhar Syndrome, and recently got a diagnosis of autism, whilst one of our sons also has a diagnosis of autism along with ADHD. Lastly, our other son now too has a diagnosis of ADHD.  As such, I guess it is fair to say, that my role in life over the last few years, has been as a (primarily) stay-at-home parent, caring for our children. More specifically, my time is obviously spent, doing those things that most parents do…parenting! But also, between the three kids, I do tend to spend a disproportionate amount of time, in and out of hospital appointments.

The point is, over the years, I have been very passionate around making sure ‘Early Intervention’, is seen as critical in improving our children’s life chances.  Needless to say, not just where my own children are concerned either. Believe me, this is much easier said than done, and getting the right support from health, within education and the like, has been/is still, a hard slog. 

Because of this, from time to time I get involved in campaigns, or help to spread awareness, around children with ADHD and autism. As I have a daughter with autism, one specific area of concern for me, is the identification and intervention where girls with autism are concerned. This field is specifically challenging in our society, as there is simply not enough information or expertise in my opinion, and therefore, the diagnosis of girls with autism is far too delayed as a general rule.

So there you go…

That’s a snippet about me, and my family life, as it is at the moment. I would love to hear from anyone else in similar circumstances. I’m a big believer that we should all stand firmly together.

Writing-More Personal Than I Could Have Ever Imagined

At this point in my work, I have begun considering the very real prospect of others entering the world I am creating.  I think it is fair to say, it’s unbelievably scary.  Honestly, I never envisaged how personal this was, or how vulnerable I would feel at the thought of putting my story ‘out there.’ Or maybe I have considered this, somewhere deep inside my subconscious, which would explain why I’ve never done it before.

Having now asked someone to look over my story so far, the thought of that person joining me in my world, is both exciting and frightening.  Yet I have no idea why I feel this way.  I assume it could be the prospect of being judged; perhaps this person won’t like my work. Or maybe it’s because they might see me differently. Whatever it is, seems to make me feel exposed.

That said, I want feedback, and I want to know if my story is coming across to others in the way I have intended. What is certain, is that I hadn’t realised how just how difficult writing a novel was going to be, and how much there was to consider. Therefore, I am wondering how well it conveys what I have imagined.

Now, all of this seems to paint the picture that I am lacking in confidence in my own ability to write my story. Truthfully, I still don’t think that is true. I am certain that I can be a great storyteller, and that I can definitely craft a good book. But by doing so, I am now opening up a part of me that nobody has ever seen before…

How could that be anything other than frightening?

My First Blog Post – Election Day 2017

It seemed like the write time to start my blog.  I am around half way through my first story, and hope to get it published on Kindle as soon as I have completed it.

Having always wanted to write, I have finally taken the plunge!!

Yet, there’s something a little bizarre about finding myself making a fresh start today!